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Ni'Kesia Pannell
27-06-2018T13:42:10Z
When it comes to starting new relationships or friendships, people usually base their first impressions on how the other person makes them feel. If they are nice to you, you start to believe that this could be something that could last a long time, and if they aren't, you often wonder why they weren't.
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While you can sometimes walk away without knowing that someone isn't a fan of yours, it's common knowledge that people crossing their arms while talking to you or looking away while doing the same are ways to know that your hopeful new relationships won't go far. .
According to international consultant, speaker, presenter and bestselling authorAli CraigHowever, there are plenty of clues that someone might not like you the way you like them.
“Believe it or not, the distance someone keeps from you, whether their arms are crossed or not, the lack of eye contact, forced smiles and other non-verbal behavior can and sometimes are indicators of whether someone likes you or not” , she said. “However, this is not always the case, and as with any rule there are always exceptions. But often, if people exhibit two, three, or four of the signs below, there's a good chance they'll view you as an enemy instead of an enemy. friend."
While forging new bonds is often helpful, here are 10 ways to know that your efforts to build a new relationship won't go as you expected.
They distance themselves from you.
If you're not interested in being around or talking to someone, the first thing that usually happens is distancing yourself – consciously or unconsciously.
"As Americans, we have very hard and fast rules when it comes to our personal space,” Craig said. 'Normally, the closer someone gets to you physically, the more comfortable he or she feels with you and around you. In the same way, the more distance someone keeps between you and him or her also says a lot. People who like each other generally have no problem being physically close to each other. If you don't like someone, you are less likely to become very close to them. You want to keep a “safe” distance between the two of you.”
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Their arms are always crossed around you.
One of the biggest signs that someone might not be that into you is when he crosses his arms in front of you. And it happens more than you might think.
"Crossing your arms can be a sign that someone is closed off or doesn't want to receive what you're giving them,” Craig told INSIDER. “While arms that are open or placed in a non-closed position say you are 'open' to receive what they give.”
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There is a lack of eye contact.
When people look away from you while speaking, it is usually seen as disrespect. Likewise, Craig told INSIDER that this could mean they're just not connected to you.
"People who aren't very happy with you often have a hard time making eye contact," Craig said. "These individuals often seem distracted or disconnected while talking and interacting with you. Their eyes may shift to other things happening around you, indicating a lack of respect and attention."
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Everything seems forced.
Everyone knows that the best friendships and relationships are the real ones. If a situation you're in or a conversation you're having feels forced, that's a sign that the person there might not like you.
"We've all experienced a forced or fake smile or laugh,” Craig said. 'This is another major indicator that someone is just going through the motions and doesn't want to 'connect' with you. . "
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Their feet point away from you.
According to body language expert and author of"The Human Whisperer: Mastering the Art of Understanding, Connecting with, and Influencing Others"Steven KeylThere are more signs than just a lack of eye contact and crossing your arms. Things can go a little deeper than that to prove that someone doesn't like you.
"Look at their feet to see where they are pointing. Feet always point away from an unwanted object," Keyl told INSIDER. “If they are not interested in our conversation, their feet will move away from us. Their feet may also point to other people in the room whose conversation they prefer, or perhaps they will simply line up with the nearest exit! "
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Likewise, their torsos point away from you.
Just as Keyl said that someone's feet pointing away from you is a sign, noticing their stomach is also a sign.
“We expose our torsos to those who make us feel good, but will immediately move aside if someone we don't like approaches us,” Keyl said. "In fact, we use the descriptive phrase of shyness, 'turning one's back on someone,' to describe negativity toward that person. As with the feet, looking at the torsos of people in a group will give a good indication of who has had negative experiences." has positive feelings for us."
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Surprisingly, too much eye contact can mean they don't like you either.
While Keyl agreed with Craig's view that a lack of eye contact is a common sign of reluctance, he also said that too much eye contact can be a sign of people who don't want others to know they think negatively of them.
"Too much eye contact can indicate that someone doesn't like you. It's common knowledge that uninterested people will look in a different direction at something or someone who is more interesting," Keyl said. "Because we know that looking away will be interpreted as rude, people overcompensate by making too much eye contact to avoid being perceived as inhospitable. So if someone is 'overly involved' in your story about your trip to Yosemite, She just might not be as in love with you as you think."
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They are constantly checking the time.
Everyone is busy these days and often uses busyness as an excuse to consistently check their phone. According to Lori Bizzoco – relationship expert and founder ofCupidsPulse.com— However, this is also an indication that someone may not be interested in you.
“Constantly looking at your watch is not only a sign of disgust, it's also a sign of disrespect,” she said. "If someone keeps checking the time while you're together, he may be bored or counting down the minutes until he doesn't have to see you anymore."
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In short, they seem closed.
While it may sound simple enough, the dating and relationship expert is on the first date siteWhatsYourPrice.com, Heather Ebert, told INSIDER that nonverbal behavior deserves more attention.
“We want to be as far away as possible from the people we don't like, but that's not always an option in social or professional settings,” she said. "So the best thing to do is use your body to protect yourself from it. Things like crossing your arms or leaning away are nonverbal behaviors that indicate someone is uncomfortable and putting up a wall."
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Their facial expressions say it all.
Being distant can be a common sign that someone doesn't like you, butAllison Matulli- author and director ofLegal Kid, Inc. — told INSIDER that you should also pay attention to facial expressions.
“That duck lip stretch is a good indication that someone doesn't like you,” Matulli said. “This is where the human lips extend to their physical maximum to one side of the face, while the nose droops when touched, causing the skin directly beneath it to be sniffed, as if struck by a bird aroma. Teenagers lash this is a natural habit when something or someone is just (as they say) 'not right,' and adults do it too."
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