So your first pair of dates went extremely well and now you and your new treasure are at the stage where you are "official", even if your relationship is still fresh and new.Scene to be inside.But although you may want to hurry through the prison to reach the more established step in your relationship, to fight for the urge and the brakes.Before you become an established couple and your happy ever starts.
From talking about money and covering tires to meeting the family and moving together, here are nine important points in the timeline of the new relationship.
Discuss the sexual history
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It is important to talk to your partner about your sexual history and to get an idea of your chemistry, experience and how you want to be together.
"This is something that must be treated early in the dating process"Dr. Paul Hokemeyer. "He adds that people should not feel obliged to tell their" number ", so you are very welcome to keep some things private.
Have sex
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People see sex differently based on their own conviction and what they feel comfortable with, but for many couples who have sex, it is a large part of it closer to early in a relationship.
"In three dates you can get a good idea of who your partner is and whether it is worth taking the next step and having sex with them," explains Hokemeyer.
Sleeping party
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"After 3 to 5 dates you know who you are dealing with and if you want to move deeper into the relationship" Uglamorous pieces.To do this, you must have a level of confidence that your vulnerabilities are not violated. "
See each other's houses
Wait no more than 1 month
You can learn a lot about the personality, taste and habits of a person of how they live.Books or bongs?The physical characteristics of a house reveal good information about the psyche of a person. "
Meet each other's friends
After 1 month
"You can learn a lot about someone from their friends," says Hokemeyer."Our peer group reflects our own personality back. They talk about who and what we appreciate in the world."
It is also important not to do this too early, because you do not want to be influenced by the opinions of friends while you still get to know your new partner.
Discuss the economy
After 1 month
"Money, and the series of questions about this, is an important cause of stress and break -that is why it is crucial to understand the view of money early in the game," says Hokemeyer.
But don't do it too early, especially if you are not sure of the other person, says Financial Education Manager at Creditability,DEATRA RILEY"Your finances are very personal and this can be a short -term relationship. You may not want someone to have that knowledge."
Work functions together
After 2 months
It is not as serious as meeting family members, but Hokemeyer says that the introduction of a dating partner in colleagues is an obligation that is important for a relationship.
"It will give you an insight into how they are seen by those who have been seen," he says."This Isimportantdata will show you their potential for success in the world of the world outside your relationship."
Meet each other's family
After 3 months
It is great to postpone this for a few months, because the introductions of families are considerable.
"They indicate that the relationship is serious. They also give you a lot of insight into the family of origin of your partner and problems that appear in your relationship," says Hokemeyer.
Lyss Stern, parenting expert and CEO ofdivamoms.comAdds: "I would highly recommend it before I bring someone home to meet the parents, that they know that this can be someone with whom they are serious and have a real relationship."
Travel together
After 6 months
Although according to oneExpedia-GFK-studie, 30%of people would make a trip with someone with whom they have only been 1 to 3 months, remember that traveling together can do or break a relationship.
“Traveling, even if it is exciting and fun, can be stressful.Journey, you have to see how they deal with stress, daily responsibility for life and their ability to deal with discrepancies in your relationship, "says Hokemeyer.
Merge
After 1 year
This is perhaps one of the biggest steps for a new pair just before the wedding.Research from rent.com, 37% of people agreed that six months to a year in dating is a good time to move together.
"Moving together is when the rubber hits the road," says Hokemeyer."You have to have a good idea of how stable the tires are. With regret and failures."
It does not matter where you are on the timeline of the new relationship, it is good to remember that every relationship is different and seized and grows at its own pace.The friends of others or discuss finances, but at the end of the day it is about what you feel comfortable for the two of you.If you both like to make a weekend trip after five dates, go for it.If you need more than three months before you are ready to introduce your partner to your mother, take that time.
If you wonder if your relationship is planned, the answer to how you think about it is.Do you get what you need?
