A few days ago I had the privilege of being interviewed byJon WeeceFor an upcoming episode of De NieuweDressing room podcast(That's an incredible source for men).Jon has asked me many very insightful questions, but especially a question is something that I continued to consider days later.Before the wedding one day?"
As a spokesperson for stronger marriages, I often write and talk about what we should all do to be a better husband, but this question reminded me that some of the most important and life -changing decisions we make for marriage.Young men want to do the next seven things, they will be prepared for marriage, paternity and all aspects of life.children.
If you are single, you must bring it to the heart.The decisions you make today create future opportunities or removes future opportunities in your future family by implementing the right habits and elimining unhealthy habits.Get the best from this time now.
7 things that men have to do before marriage (in no special order) ...
1. Develop one strong work thigh
When I was a young boy, I had the privilege of spending some time with my great grandfather.Hour but because of his discipline and work ethics When he died, he left his family a farm and ownership with a value of more than a million dollars!A hard man.Han individual knuckles were every size of my fist.Even in the late 1980s, he still had the power to bring down a young Whippersnapper if he wanted it..
Men often fail in marriage (and in life), simply because they don't know how to work hard.I have a lot to learn from his approach because there are many ways that we as modern men miss the brand.Ashley is actually much better with tools than me).After a way to make your hands dirty and creepy to do honest, hard work.It will be of good service all your life and make you a better man and dad in one day.
"Whatever you do, work on it with all your heart, such as working for the Lord, not for human masters."Colossal 3:23
#2 means running to something that most men run away from ...
2. Find responsibility instead of running off
Another lesson lesson that can be illustrated by my great grandfather is this point to seek responsibility instead of running away.Me or binds."We wrongly believed that" freedom "does not mean that we should answer someone. This attitude does not make us effective and unreliable in all parts of life (including future marriages and families). My grandfather lost his father and brothers young, andWhen he was ten years old, he willingly took the responsibility to be 'the man of the house' that he and his mother would be hungry that night.
One of the best things I did to prepare myself to be a man and dad one day was to participateLarge brothers big sistersThat is a mentor organization.Seek responsibility;Not someone who runs from that.Whis a man who says, "You can trust me."(And mean it if you say so!) It will make you a good man and dad one day!
"Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain. Instead of humility appreciates others above you and you do not look at your own interests, but each of you to the interests of others."The Philippians 2: 3-4
#3 is something I couldn't do and I wish I would have done it differently every day
3. Develop a disciplined financial plan
Learn as much as you can and earn as much as you can.This is something I didn't do for marriage and the first few years of our marriage had a lot of unnecessary stress!Van Money and I lived further than my funds.
One of the best things you can do for yourself and your future family is to develop a financial plan now.DaveRamsey.com.Work to spend less than you earn, save some money in an emergency fund, eliminating ruthless debts, trusting God with your tenth and practice in generosity., Long -term plans.In the coming woman will thank you!
"... The borrower is a servant of the lender."Proverbs 22: 7
#4 is perhaps the most difficult on this list, but it is also one of the most important ...
4. Prioritize sexual purity (both mentally and physically)
You certainly do not need me to tell you that we live in an era of sexual temptation and exploitation, like no other time in history.(Who should not limit your pleasure, but to protect and bless you and your future woman), you must be responsible here.
Get software on your phone to block p*rn and follow sites for accountability (X3Watch and Covenant Eyes are good places to start).Unhealthy view of sex as a selfish act).I made the same mistakes and the temporary joy was never worth the pain it later caused.And never exchange temporary joy of permanent regret.
"But I say that everyone who even looks at a woman with desire has already committed adultery with her in his heart."Matthew 5:28
#5 requires your time, energy and resources in a different way ...
5. Use your Singleess as an opportunity for service;
If you are not careful, single can make you selfish.Then egoism, so if you really want to be a big man and daddy one day, don't wait until you are married to think of other people besides yourself.
"God has given each of you a gift of his great series of spiritual gifts. Use them well to earn each other."1 Peter 4:10
#6 may sound old -modified, but it never gets out of fashion ...
6. Learn how you can be a Lord
Our world is so confused about what a "real man" looks like.What God has made you, you must have the courage to prevent -cultural.
"But among you there should not even be a touch of sexual immoral or of any form of impurity or greed, because this is incorrect for the holy people of God. Of place, but rather thanksgiving."Ephesians 5: 3-4
#7 is actually the most important on the list ...
7. Makes Jesus your most important relationship
If these were in ranking, this would have been no. 1.s about your single or your poison, Christ first priority.If he does not keep the top location in your heart, your priorities will no longer be!Love him, the more capacity you will have to love yourself and everyone else.grow in your faith.You will keep the best of your future woman if you love God the most.
"Find the Kingdom of God above all and live honestly and he will give you everything you need."Matthew 6:33
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